Kitty for Mr. Woods asked me on this post about the boyfriend I have.
I knew a reply there wouldn't be sufficient so I decided to write a post in response.
The bf and I have known each other for what seems like forever. We've become much closer over the last three years. But it was only 6 months or so ago that we got (back) together. We have prior history from that forever ago, not too long after we first met.
Heavens, we were awkward back then. The kind of awkward only teenagers can be. Young, foolish, not nearly as devious as we are now.
So much has happened since then. And yes, I'm being non-specific to certain time lines. Can't go giving away my age, after all. *grins and winks*
It was a year before we starting dating again that I realized a spark was still between us. I allowed him to stretch his dominant muscles. Then I became re-involved with someone and that was put to the back burner. I guess it was around Christmas time last year that I told him that I still cared about him.
When we finally got to see each other, it was pretty damn obvious something is there. But it has this tendency to fade when we're not together and not working damn hard at "us."
I could not be monogamous with him. The man tries but he is not comfortable in dominance, at least not yet. I need a Dom. While the bf isn't happy that he has to share me, he will. For now. He couldn't do it long term.
He hints at what he wants long term for himself. I don't fit into that mold. I don't want to fit into it. He's set on living in NJ. I miss it terribly but I have no desire to ever live in that state unless I have to.
So why stay together? Because not every relationship has to be long-term. The bf and I don't sit making plans for the future. It's something we're both aware of that we're meant to go off in different directions when the time comes.
It will fade back to a friendship at some point. I imagine the spark will always be there between us. We have too many years of history for there not to be something.
And now my comment of "I'm willing to be monogamous with Him" should be even more telling...there's a very introspective post hiding in there.
Now y'all have a better grasp of where things are in terms of the bf.